"I want to be in a relationship. I want to be married. I want what I want and I want it now."
Why is it that as single women we get so consumed with wanting a relationship? We serve a God who doesn't lie, and he has promised that he will give us the desires of our heart. Ok, so why am I still single? Psalm 37:4 says,"take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." Well, I go to church on Sundays and sometimes even Wednesdays. I volunteer, I read my bible, and I pray. But is my delight really in the Lord, or have I allowed myself to be so consumed with my desires that I've missed the mark? Dictionary.com defines delight as a high degree of pleasure or enjoyment. Synonyms of delight are contentment and satisfaction. So the scripture is basically telling us we should be satisfied with God. That's our part, that's what we have to do. We have to be totally satisfied and content with God and experience a high degree of pleasure and enjoyment. When we really enjoy something we're not thinking about anything else. That's not to say we can't want to be in a relationship. In Genesis 2:18, God says, it's not good for man to be alone, so he wants us to be in a relationship. It was God's idea to create Eve. He will give us the desires of our heart, but we can't get so caught up in receiving our desires, that we forget to delight ourselves in the Lord. We must trust that He knows our heart, He knows what we want, and He has promised to give it to us.
When we're not focused on God, we're not delighted in him, in fact we're probably disappointed in Him. It's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship, but we can't let it consume us. We have to trust God's timing. If the right person hasn't come in your life, it's possible there are still things God wants you to do that you haven't done yet. Jeremiah 1:5 says, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart..." Life is so much bigger than we can sometimes imagine and God has destined you for success. Success is way more than just that relationship we often times get hung up on. He instructs us, "to seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and then all these other things will come. Seek God, not the perfect relationship. Seek his way of doing things and then everything else will come. Things will make more sense. We will be wiser and more equipped to deal with the complexities of a relationship.
In God we find peace and happiness. If we delight ourselves in Him that's where we find our purpose and that's where we can see the bigger picture. The scripture says blessings chase me down and I believe the right relationship is a blessing, not the only blessing, but a blessing nonetheless. If we take our rightful position in God we're not chasing the blessings, the blessings are chasing us. *See Deuteronomy 28:1-2*
I was praying and asking God for answers, so I wrote this as a conversation between God and I to help me, but maybe it's something in here to help someone else. So, to those who are reading this, trust God and Be Blessed!
